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Feb 26, 2023Liked by Yuezhong Zheng

Thank you for sharing these! I may give them a go.

I am a morning person - and even if I was not, I would have to learn to be for I have dogs...- but recently I have been getting up at 430am to write before work. I sustained the schedule of 5am to 7am (something to do with writing) 7am to 530pm / 6pm (work), a bit of a break and then do some learning or reading from 6pm to 8pm / 9pm for a couple of months. But I am now starting to feel exhausted...I do not think it is the 430am start, I think it's work 😁 But needs must. I will try to figure out a more realistic schedule in the next couple of weeks (especially as I have about five courses for work I am doing...).

P.S. It is a different beast altogether, but 'My Year of Rest and Restoration' by Ottessa Moshfegh might be of interest. It is fiction and it is not necessarily about sleep even if the protagonist's aim is to sleep for a year. Throwing it out there ☺️

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Feb 24, 2023Liked by Yuezhong Zheng

I started listening to the Why We Sleep audiobook because of your Goodreads post! I am definitely a night owl and trying to learn how I can embrace that by developing a healthy and realistic relationship with sleep. I’ll have to add Rest is Resistance to my list!

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We are all haunted by the same demons preventing us from reaching our goals. The only way to get around is to persevere regardless. I hope you won’t give up, keep working on it, there will come a day where you will get your breakthrough. Thank you for your recommendation too. I found the quote “the shorter your sleep, the shorter your life.“ very relatable.

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I will add these books on my TBR list. I usually think rest and sleep is overrated, but after reading this review, I promise to get enough rest and sleep. Thank you for this beautiful piece.

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Wow! Who knew our sleeping habits were written in our DNA? I've been guilty of not waking up early because it's associated with productivity. I just happen to have more energy at night. No more guilt now. Thanks, Yuezhong. ⭐️

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Lots to think about here. Thanks for sharing these two books. I may have to check them out.

In Substack's Office Hours this week, a writer commented that they believed what they wrote would find its way to someone who needed to hear it.

Yesterday I wrote about time. This morning we lost an hour due to daylight savings time. And then - after having not had a chance to read your issues for a while - I paused to read your latest. Insightful. Thank you.

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I drop in with some Tara Brach audio. I scan the body and Ungrip from my senses.

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I'm so glad I read this. I've been thinking similar thoughts for quite a while. I felt pressure to perform from a young age. To prove myself worthy of love, to provide pride for my parents in a situation that drained them, to constantly be a beacon of brilliance and hope. I was very Type-A until I was 20. I attempted to toss my Type-A personality overboard in Mykonos during holiday. It's not that easy to dismiss this part of yourself when others in your life are depending on you to fit in the slots they think you should perform in, at the levels they think will be adequate. The pandemic came at the perfect moment for me. For decades I'd journaled about how I wished I could be alone, have time by myself to hear myself think, to not be as driven by others, but to know what is naturally mine. The first poem I wrote had this line in it I've never forgotten: If I put the whip down, what will keep me going?

In the early part of this century I discovered that when I relaxed more and listened within, there was a whole other directive begging to be heeded. When I lightened up the grip on my reins, another deeper self was guiding me right to what I wanted, but didn't know I wanted.

Thank you for writing about this! I'm signing up on this manifesto.

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